Leading By Example Is The Best Education

One must never forget that children are like sponges and soak up everything they see. Therefore, the best way to raise children is by setting a good example in your actions

How many times have you tried to get children to do things in certain ways? But are you not setting a good example yourself  ?

If you don’t do what you ask yourself, there is a very good chance that such an education will fail. 

All of this is the result of something that happens in all families: the children are attentive and notice everything that the parents set an example for them.

For this reason, it is particularly important to always lead by example . Because discrepancies in the behavior of the parents are noticed immediately. This is the only way to avoid discussions, confrontations and a number of other problems.

Words will go with the wind if you are not an example

It’s easy to say things like “don’t put your feet on the table” or “throw paper in the trash, not on the floor”; however, the difficult thing is to lead by example.

For example, if the father always puts his feet on the table, the child will not follow. It cannot possibly understand why it is not allowed to do something its own parents do all the time.

When the child finally enters the rebellious phase, they will do the same as the parents. As a result, there are a number of arguments, discussions and tantrums. There will be some very interesting sentences.

• For example, the child will ask the parents “why can’t I put my feet on the table when you keep doing it?”. A parent will then drop the famous phrase “because I say that and that’s it”. 

We really believe this can work? Such dictatorial, unjust and incoherent statements will never lead to the results one hoped for.

Without noticing it, you yourself become the trigger for many arguments in our family. There is no doubt that this can be avoided very easily.

However, the amount of responsibilities and tasks on your mind can prevent you from realizing how simple things could actually be.

In one way or another, the anger is then released on the boss or on the partner. But who pays the bill? Usually the smallest in the household who is actually not to blame.

Incoherence: a ticking time bomb in adolescence

Even the smallest ones can begin to rebel against the incoherent role models they find in the family environment. However, when they get into adolescence, things start to get complicated.

This is the time when patience becomes particularly important. Sentences like “because I say so” have a significantly greater impact on the offspring in adolescence.

We cannot ask for anything that we cannot do ourselves. Leading by example is the best way to educate. Quite the opposite of orders, orders or requests, etc.

Parents are people, but so are children. What is clear is that children need authority. But parents need to learn to use them in the right way.

It is important to make it a priority to lead by example. Otherwise it is easy to lose the required authority with screams, threats and outbursts of anger that turn the house into chaos.

In a time like adolescence, children especially need a lot of stability. Right now, they need large doses of love and understanding, but not screams or offensive words.

That way you only provoke hatred and negative feelings. In doing so, the children’s respect for the parents is often lost.

You shouldn’t go to their level

If a parent screams, gets upset, or starts arguing with their children as if they were the same age, they lose their authority completely.

Setting a good example does not mean letting yourself be overwhelmed by such feelings and then doing the simplest thing: raise your voice, challenge and command and say “because we are your parents and you have to obey us”.

Putting yourself on the same level as the children only makes the situation worse. But to prevent that, you have to lead by example first, of course.

There are so many responsibilities, money problems and worries about the future of your own children. However, one should never leave something particularly important aside: showing them the love you feel for them.

Because sometimes you have a lot more conflicts and discussions in everyday life than would actually be necessary. But where is the love? And the understanding?

We should make an effort to become a little better person every day and to learn from the mistakes we see thanks to our own children. This is the only way to find yourself on the right path.

Working to become the best version of ourselves will result in the little ones following our upbringing without too much effort. 

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