Don’t Let Self-pity Catch You!
Self-pity can sometimes be a trap that can lead to depressive moods.
If you are of the opinion that the whole world has definitely conspired against you and that you are the poorest person in the world anyway, then it could be that your own self-pity has lured you into a trap.
You have to free yourself as soon as possible before the self-pity pulls you into the depths!
Self-pity leads to negative thoughts
Self-pity is not dangerous at first, but it can develop into danger if you let it catch you and let it rule your thoughts.
You have probably already seen that you interpret harmless coincidences differently, so that they fit into the worldview you created yourself through self-pity.
You arrange everything in such a way that it always “comes out”. And you are a poor bunch of misery, an innocent victim that everyone has conspired against.
You feel unloved, neglected, maybe lonely and sad. The more you get into self-pity, the more lonely you feel.
If you openly “show” this self-pity, it can really happen to you that you get lonely, because who wants to hear your misinterpreted whining?
The greatest risk is that you will not free yourself from the clutches of your own self-pity and that you will initially develop a depressive mood that can develop into a solid depression.
And that’s only because you let yourself go in self-pity …
How self-pity affects your behavior
People who cultivate self-pity not only feel left out. They also proclaim this by telling everyone their version of reality.
After all, something bad only ever happens to you, you are always betrayed, neglected and disadvantaged.
You are of the opinion that fate just never means well to you and that you are in a perpetual victim role.
Perhaps you have friends who think the same way, with whom you can look up to others and say “that would never happen to them!”
Because self-pity dominates your thoughts, it affects your behavior as well.
Since you are of the opinion that you cannot do anything, absolutely nothing, for the circumstances of your life, because life simply does not mean it well to you, you do not take things into your own hands to change them.
You lose energy, appear powerless and drift into a “doesn’t matter anyway, because I can only lose” mood. You become passive – and therefore quite lonely.
In all honesty, do you want to be friends with a self-pitying whiner? That nobody wants to have anything to do with you can of course only happen to you …
What to do about self-pity
When you realize that you are wallowing in self-pity and letting yourself melt, you should change roles as soon as possible. And stop doing it to avoid falling into a depression.
Maybe you just need someone to open your eyes through excessive exaggeration !
Missed the bus? Naturally! The bus driver did that on purpose, because he too conspired against you! Funny, is not it? But don’t you think alike sometimes?
Overdo it with your self-pity and realize how unnecessary and ridiculous it is!
Ask your friends
Ask friends for their opinion. How do you see the situation? Did the bus driver really want to be angry with you or were you just simply too slow or too late?
What do your colleagues think about when you think you are always being discriminated against by the boss? Often a neutral view from the outside can help to change perspective. And to realize that you have only put yourself in a victim role without actually being a victim!
Think pink! Think and watch yourself: Certainly not everything always goes wrong and there is certainly a lot in your life that works. Be grateful for that!
Focus your gaze consciously on positive things in your life and draw strength from them to solve any “real” problems instead of letting them roll over you as a victim!
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and use the energy you constantly spend on whining and complaining for better things that move you forward! Towards the life you want to live! Because “everyone is the maker of their own happiness” – really!
