Kassandra Syndrome And The Social Exclusion Of Women

Kassandra syndrome is the tendency to show courage so as not to be underestimated any longer. It can be seen in the behavior of many women these days.

Kassandra syndrome is first described in  one of the most famous myths from Homer’s Iliad  .

It tells that the oracle god Apollo was fascinated by the beauty of Kassandra. She was the daughter of the King of Troy. Apollo made her an offer to win her love.

He offered her the gift of prophecy. However  , Kassandra didn’t like Apollo. So she accepted the gift but was reluctant to be with Apollo afterwards. He was shocked and, above all, angry.

Apollo came back and cursed Kassandra by saying that she only prophesied things that no one believed, even though they were true.

So the gift became a curse. Kassandra suffered from the fact that other people underestimated her truths.

The feeling of being underestimated makes you feel inferior

Kassandra syndrome causes women to feel inferior in many areas of everyday life. In fact, they build their identities on prejudices that already exist about them.

Some of them admit that they are too weak. They say that they cry a lot and feel attacked …

However, there are also women who stand between phrases like “the train has left” and “they have not found a man by their side”.

All of this causes them to build an identity based on addiction. They seek the  approval of others, suffer from a lack of self-esteem and a tendency to feel responsible for everything.

In large part, this is exactly what happens to Kassandra in the Myth.

• She sought approval for her predictions but was denied.
• She wanted to save her loved one from the suffering she had warned against many times. However, they didn’t trust her. Because of this, she felt bad and lost her confidence.

People with Kassandra syndrome often have a tendency to show courage. This is because they think they can earn the respect  and affection of others.

However, that doesn’t work and you will only be rejected.

Kassandra syndrome causes psychological changes

Feeling that they are underestimated, women with this syndrome go through important psychological changes.

One of those changes is perfectionism. This is the quest to control everything. In abundance, this can be seen as a distinct feature.

• They are obsessed with small things, especially in their own sphere of influence.
• This shows how little control they have over situations that are normal. They cannot get approval for what they have no power over.

The most important point, however, is that they turn off their intuition. When others underestimate them, they do the same. However, they do this for themselves and with their feelings and emotions.

Therefore, they don’t listen to their instincts telling them “this relationship is not good for you” or “you suffer from it”.

All of this leads to these people trying very hard. They don’t even notice this at the beginning. However, your body will be showing signs that some things are not going right for you. You start to suffer from pain, fatigue and sleep problems …

When external aversion hurts, internal rejection is worse.

The exclusion of femininity, the predominance of masculinity

Kassandra syndrome is a form of exclusion of femininity. Here are  women not taken seriously  and are subordinate to men.

When Apollo felt rejected, he demonstrated his masculinity by exercising his power over Kassandra. She didn’t stand a chance. She suffered the consequences of masculine dominance.

And this continued long after she suffered the wrath of Apollo. She sought approval and trust, but was denied both.

Many women suffer from this syndrome because they are born with it. From birth, they have the feeling of being underestimated.

There is a lot to be done about the social exclusion of women. This is not because  women are still portrayed as weak, emotional, and too sensitive.

Those who suffer from Kassandra Syndrome encourage this. In order to get rid of the given prejudices, it is necessary to walk a difficult and hard path with many steep slopes.

Illustrations by Norvz Austria, David Talley and Greta Larosa.